It is only natural to feel a sense of loss or despair when your children fly the nest. After years of devoting your time and attention to them, you may feel a dip in your sense of purpose and direction. But fear not, life as you know it may have changed – but as they say, change can be as good as a holiday!
Although your children have left home, your sense of self hasn’t. You are a parent as well as a woman – a woman with dreams, desires, interests and ambitions. Having less parental responsibility frees up your time and attention – use this freedom to focus on other areas of your life, including yourself! See this new chapter as an opportunity to accomplish the things you felt you never had the time to do.
A few ideas to get you started:
Use your time creatively:
Consider volunteer work – there is an endless list of organisations and charities to choose from.
A helping hand is always a highly sought after commodity. Not only will this give you a renewed sense of purpose, you will also be making a positive difference in your community.
Consider joining, or better yet, STARTING a club. Whether it is a book club, art club or dinner club, it is a wonderful way to learn from and share your knowledge with other women. Clubs are a great platform for growth, connecting with like-minded people and socialising.
Focus on yourself – goals, physical health and forgotten ambitions.
With all of your newfound free time, there is no more room for excuses. Getting your health in order should now be a priority for you; incorporate exercise into your daily routine, cook and eat healthily, go for regular check-ups and pay attention to your emotional and mental health.
Also, now is a fabulous time to pick up a new skill. Whether you have always wanted to be a master chef, a fabulous seamstress or have gifted green fingers – you now have the time and energy to invest in learning something new. There is always room to learn and grow.
It is never too late to realise those dreams that were put on the backburner when your parental responsibilities took centre stage .If you see yourself running a marathon or your own business, now is the time to take those steps towards making those dreams a reality.
Review your living situation
Nowadays the talk is all about downsizing, cutting costs and reducing all those house and garden jobs. If you no longer want to live in a spacious house with empty bedrooms, a long term care home is an excellent alternative. There are many fabulous options for long term care facilities that will incorporate an active, exciting lifestyle with all the comforts of home.
And remember – modern technology and social media are very powerful tools. You are now able to keep in touch with your children using interactive social media programs and user friendly technology. Your loved ones are now just a click or a phone call away.
When your children fly the coop, don’t see it as a loss – see it as a magnificent chance to live, learn and grow, not only for you, but for your family too!